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Becoming Bigger Than Our Pain – Thru Love and Courage

Grief Support Through Encouragement and Empowerment.

A Grief Support Guidebook

Although this book was born from the pain of child loss, it is about grief support from any loss. We grieve differently from a loss of a friend, sibling, parent, relative, child, or pet. We are each individuals in our grief journey, but truly grief is grief. I give suggestions for supporting someone grieving a loss. There is no tape measure for pain, and my child loss is different from my pet loss, although after 15 years my dog was as much a family member as the rest of us. They both hurt my heart, in different ways, there is no comparison, it is the pain of grief. One loss is more painful, and harder to recover from, but in the end they are both part of my grief journey.

Nobody wants to talk about death or illness.

Are you emotionally prepared to help others?

This guide that not only tells you what to say and do for others, it empowers you to become bigger than your own pain.

Within the pages of this book is a guide in what to say and do to help those who are coping with a life threatening situation or death of a loved one. The guide comes from the loss of 2 of my sons. I include my journey through the pain, to bring encouragement and empowerment to others as they travel thier own grief road alongside me.

My intent was to gently guide the reader into the world of grief to get a better understanding of how to help those going through the process. And I do that, but I have also found that many grieving have gained strength and courage from reading my story. I tell of my journey through the pain, and the pot holes I fell into along the pathway.

I grew up wanting the American Dream… A house in the country with 2 kids playing in the yard. But what I got was a lifetime of learning to become bigger than my pain. I got the house, I had a boy who had just turned 2, and his sister was on the way.

Life was good…

And then I wrecked my car. My son was ripped from my life by a guardrail going through my car, I survived, and so did my daughter who had been nestled safely inside me for 5 months. My dreams were gone, my life was a living hell, and my marriage broke up. I put my life back together slowly, and I remarried. I had 2 more boys, and life was somewhat normal until my fourth child died. He had cancer. It was ugly.

I was once again struggling to become bigger than my own pain.

I chose to name the book “Becoming Bigger Than Our Pain” because truly it is not just my pain, or your pain, or their pain, it is OUR pain. And to work through the grief, one must become bigger.

The pain will always be there, but with MUCH LOVE, and GREAT COURAGE,we can truly,

BECOME BIGGER THAN OUR PAIN,

and learn to live life again in our new skin.

My intent with this book is to help the caring souls outside of grief looking in,

wanting to help someone struggling.