I am somewhat new to facebook (first posted 1/19/2011), and I am amazed at the impact is has on peoples lives! WOW! I used to think about people who were in their late 80′s and 90′s as true pioneers, as they lived before the automobile, let alone the computer. Now I think lives will be defined before the Internet and facebook!
What a social awakening! We can reach across the world and touch lives. we can share joy , laughter, and sadness instantly with a few keystrokes. We can keep in touch with our cell phones. What I see that I think is so profoundly awesome, is the way the grieving people can connect with someone who knows what they are going thru. Someone who can relate to all of it, because they, too are walking that journey. 30 years ago when my son died in a car accident, there was no one where I lived who had lost a small child in a car wreck. Compassionate Friends was just getting going, and I was way too pissed off to hear about how God had a plan…God, had let me down…
What a different world it is now! There are so many places to find support, so many sharing their hearts and their love with each other. In a world where the news likes to bring out all the bad and evil in this world, there are many compassionate people still here on this earth, helping others simply because they can. It is to them I dedicate these facebook stories. There are so many, my page is a busy one, that I miss a lot, but I try and catch up as best I can, and have pulled my favorites to post here for those not on facebook, or too busy, and missed them. So here’s to the facebook hero’s, helping to heal hearts one breath at a time!
One of my first posts after joining facebook:
Sandy Brosam ~ I work in a hospital, and as I was talking to a new mom, a mere child herself…as she was holding that precious babe in her arm, she looked up in fear and amazement and asked me “what is the hardest thing about being a mother?” I looked at her and smiled gently and said “Not being one” winked and walked out of the room.
Now that took years of healing to be able to say that and walk away without crying, and clearly she had no clue as to what I meant, but it meant a lot to me. To all the newly bereaved moms and dads out there, I send you hugs! Push the pain away and draw on the love, it will get you through the day, one breath at a time!
Diana ~ If you hear me laugh one moment in time, do you think… Oh great! She seems fine. The smiles you see, don’t reach my eyes… Nor do you hear my silent anguished cries. My heart is breaking, can’t you see? Without my sweet child here with me. My heart and soul have taken a big hit. Yet some loved ones tell me “get over it….” Each new day is an emotional strain I pray none of them experience this pain. Only another parent that is grieving too can understand what I am going thru. My precious child has died, that is true, Why must I hide this pain from you?
Trena ~ I had someone yesterday, that told me that I used to be a good person. People admired me and looked up to me, but that I have changed. I have changed, I will never be the person is use to be. I see people and say Hi how are you. I don’t chit chat anymore. Does this make me a bad person? Life is not the same and never will be. I wish that I had my life back, but that is impossible. I don’t want pity from people, just try to understand that I am trying to just survive.
Angelina ~ The pain is always there. I just sometimes put on a happy face. My heart aches everyday as I know yours does. Cried when I read the (above) posting. You are receiving a hug from me right now.
Lisa ~ Nobody does “Get It” …. I think especially your own family. At least in my case. This country does not recognize profound grief and so we become the outsiders.
Gail ~ Yeah, I know the feeling. I’ve even been told I need to seek “professional help” Well, let them lose a child – of any age and we’ll see how they handle it. I thank God every day for facebook because we can share the load and not feel “crazy” for doing it.
Terri ~ When you find “normal” let me know. Xoxoxxo
I wrote the blog above, when just starting out on facebook… now I have had so much going on in facebook, I built a regular page for the longer conversations that I want to share, that I moved to griefbeach.com
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