Pain is often beyond words, but never beyond love. Sometimes you have to just stop talking & start hugging!

~Sandy Brosam 1989

I wrote that quote when I was writing my first book, as so many loving souls just didn’t know what to say to me. It has become my passion to help people to truly know what to say to and do for actual help. My book Becoming Bigger Than Our Pain was intended as a guide for those wanting to help others. I have found that many people actively grieving have also found my books helpful. This blog is directed to those who are grieving and need empowerment along their journey.

To me grief is like the ocean waves. It can grab you and drive you down into the depths of the darkness, drag you across the rocks, stick you in a crevice or two, and then it eases up so you can swim back to the surface. When you come back up, you are cut and bruised, and in a way different part of the planet, gasping for air. You start swimming again for the shore, and sometimes you make it, and sometimes the clouds roll in before you make the shore, and the waves get you again.

On August 9, 1980 Terry died. His death broke my heart and forever defined my life as a grieving mother.

On October 31, 1988 Brandon died. His death broke my heart yet again, and threw me back into the rocks at the bottom of the ocean.

My Blogs are about how I healed to give others encouragement. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.